​Are you and your partner having the same arguments over and over? Do you feel disconnected or like you're not on the same page anymore? Are you navigating challenges that feel unique to being in a queer relationship, on top of the usual stressors couples face?

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I'm Dr. Lauren Smithee, a queer, PhD-level marriage and family therapist offering virtual LGBTQ couples therapy throughout California. I've been in a same-gender relationship for over 14 years, and I bring both personal understanding and professional expertise to my work with queer couples.

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Finding a couples therapist who truly understands LGBTQ relationships can be difficult. Many therapists are "affirming" but don't have deep experience with the dynamics queer couples actually face: navigating family acceptance together, co-parenting in a heteronormative world, supporting a partner through gender identity exploration or transition, or simply wanting a therapist who gets it without needing everything explained.

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I am trained in Gottman Method Therapy, which means I use research-based assessments and tools to help you and your partner identify your strengths and growth areas. Together, we can work on:

• communicating more effectively, especially during conflict

• rebuilding trust or strengthening your attachment

• navigating external stressors like discrimination or family rejection

• deepening your emotional and physical intimacy

• creating a shared vision for your future together

 

I offer virtual sessions at times that fit busy schedules, including early mornings and evenings Monday through Saturday.

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I see couples throughout California, including San Francisco, Oakland, Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Jose. If you're ready to feel more connected to your partner, I'd be honored to work with you.