Are you looking for a couples therapist who uses proven, research-based methods? Do you want more than just talking through your problems, but real tools and skills to strengthen your relationship?

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I'm Dr. Lauren Smithee, a PhD-level marriage and family therapist trained in Gottman Method Therapy (Levels 1 and 2). I offer virtual couples therapy throughout California using this research-based approach to help partners build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

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Gottman Method Therapy is based on over 40 years of research on what makes relationships succeed or fail. It focuses on building friendship, managing conflict constructively, and creating shared meaning in your relationship. It's not about placing blame. It's about understanding your patterns and learning practical tools to change them.

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As a Gottman-trained therapist, I use research-based assessments to help you and your partner understand your relationship's strengths and growth areas. From there, we work together on building skills that actually stick.

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Together, we can work on:

• understanding your unique relationship patterns

• replacing criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling with healthier responses

• learning to repair after conflict

• deepening your friendship and fondness for each other

• managing perpetual problems that every couple has

• building rituals of connection

• creating shared goals and meaning

 

I see couples virtually throughout California, including San Francisco, Los Angeles, Oakland, and San Jose. I offer sessions at times that fit busy schedules, including early mornings and evenings Monday through Friday as well as Saturday mornings.